Beauty is defined by most by the color of someone’s eyes, face shape, body shape and often times skin tones. While preferences exist, no one shares the same attributes but everyone is beautiful in their own right. This brought about an idea to collaborate with Natonya, an amazing fashion and body positive blogger with incredible style, to show how we redefine beauty on our own terms.
We as women are put under pressure to be “perfect”, we have to be a certain size or color to be accepted. As a young girl these ideas of what women should be were forced into our faces all over television and movies. At some point we admired the woman men swooned over. Now, that we are older, more of us are noticing how toxic it is to compare ourselves to these unrealistic ideas of “perfection”.
This argument and fight to be loved the same will go on until people finally realize that no one is the same.
Being a woman is stressful, we deal with the bodily pain then we have to deal with the social pain. Social pain being wanting to take a picture of which we love, put it on social media just to be made fun of because we dont look like the “instagram model” as if that’s what qualifies us as beautiful. Those standards and the hate spewed throughout the internet is what causes people to change who they are.
Our bodies, skin tones, personalities and stories are all different for a reason. I am thankful for my thighs, hips, personality, and skin tone because it is ME! No one else’s acceptance matters more than my own!
This society we are in praises the Victoria Secret model over the real life fantasy! As women, we should uplift one another when we are compared for the attention of someone who only cares for the size of your butt or breasts. We are more than booty size.
My hope is one day we all accept one another and are accepted by others for being exactly who we are without the modifications and comparisons. If you must modify something about yourself do it for you and not because that’s how all the girls on Instagram look or because of a boys suggestion. In the end a real man will accept you for all that you are, imperfections included.
Love yourselves, your bodies, your personality and show that love to the next woman. If no one else will build us up we surely can. Let’s show the world all of the different body types, skin tones and ethnicities that are under represented and push for a change so we can all be seen, so we can all show young girls that when they grow up there is someone that looks like them to look up to.
The woman’s body built like a work of art with intricate curves, textural-defined skin and a ravishing softness that makes anyone melt. God made people into a masterpiece hard to duplicate, which is why we must value every part of our human form. Some ladies are slim-framed while others slip into the wider built category.
I’ve always had thick thighs, wide hips and a round butt. As a woman today, this type of figure is considered beautiful but my days in middle school and early high school years, it was described as “fat” and “funny looking”. Hearing someone tell me, “I’m fat” played with my self-esteem. I always hid my womanly shape at a young age behind baggy clothes and over-sized cardigans. I would even wear my favorite red knitted sweater in the summer because I didn’t like my arms, butt and hips. My mentality of hiding carried into adulthood. I still have moments where I struggle to embrace my physique because I get self-conscious when others stare. For some reason, I think they stare because something is wrong.
My mother always bought me body hugging clothes such as tight pencil skirts and high-waist pants to show out my curves. She always emphasized to me, never hide your beauty because God makes no mistakes. Women like Iskra Lawrence and La’Tecia Thomas with similar body type like mine make it easier to fearlessly flaunt my figure in a fashion-friendly manner. I follow both women on Instagram because they represent what the body positive movement is all about, loving yourself in your own skin to redefine the meaning of beauty.
Body image is in the forefront because people are acknowledging beautifying the diversity of different sizes and shapes. We don’t need to look the same, in fact it’s important that we don’t look like the girl or guy next door. Following the aftermath of Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show controversy, Erica from GrandFashLife and I decided to write about our perspectives of the body image movement. Erica is one of my favorite fashion bloggers because she is supportive, innovative, kind and a talented designer. Be sure to follow her on Twitter for inspiration energy and check out her Instagram, she rocks some stylish beauty looks too.
Let me start by saying I have always shopped at Victoria’s Secret. As I became older and more educated about brands and their missions, I find myself less excited over the company and its marketing strategies. Earlier in May, I wrote a post about the inclusive and exclusivity in the body positive movement, declaring that it’s not necessary to pin one body category over another to celebrate the beauty of a specific body shape. I like movements that focus on body positivity by celebrating ALL shapes and sizes, similar to the community I built through @sheiconic. Be sure to read that post about my concept to understand the main points.
Victoria’s Secret made headlines because of the negative comments against featuring transgenders in their holiday spectacular runway show. Personally, I believe the company is allowed to have whoever they want to walk their runway. While it’s encouraging to have more body shape diversity in their show and campaigns, it’s their niche to feature slime-figured women, similar to Lane Bryant’s niche to focus on bustier and curvaceous women.
Let’s educate ourselves to the fact that there is something out there for everyone, we just have to find it or create a lane ourselves. I built @sheiconic because I wanted to see not only see women shaped like me but showcase how beautiful and confident other women are in their skin too. While I like the fact Victoria’s Secret highlights diversity of women through different race and nationalities, I’m against their lack of sincerity because this isn’t the first time the brand has been offensive. Once through campaigns described as the perfect body, which came across as ignorant to some because the brand neglected the fact that not everyone is shaped the same as their models.
I believe it’s our duty as women to lift and support each other and that includes celebrating our “flaws”. Let’s stop shamming someone for being naturally thin or hating on a woman’s cellulite. How about we compliment those features considered physical flaws and declare them as alluring attributes. Fall in love with the fact we’re all uniquely made and no one looks the same yet we’re united into one beautiful human race and that makes us all special.
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